Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Day break comes across the African sky

The heroes of adoption are not the adopting parents. The heroes are mothers and fathers who sacrifice.

The world is calling out in desperate need. The God of the universe has equipped and filled our pockets with the resources required to meet the need. The question, we individually must be prepared to answer is, what did you do with the gifts God has given? Except the question of salvation, there simply is no greater question facing our generation.

Technology, has changed the world we live in and our accountability. We can no longer say or claim we didn't know. The poverty, the diseased, the hurting and plight of orphans has been exposed for all to see. We all have a role to play and the time to act is now.  Please find a family or organization and make a difference this holiday season.  Thank you!

I am so thankful for each of you this Thanksgiving season! Please join our family in praying for Emmanuel's mother. We don't' know what's going on, but we long for her to be happy and make the right decision (either way) for her and E'man.

Writing provides an outlet for me and I'm thankful for the opportunity to share this one.

Day break comes across the African sky
A mother awakes to the gazes of her
children’s eyes across The room.
She tries to smile, yet the reality of the moment
Seizes her and fear falls over her.

She bows her head and begins to wonder
as tears fall from her eyes
It is the gaze of her children which break her heart
She searches for what she knows is not there

A nibble of bread, a few pieces of rice will do
None for her she professes
Just enough to feed her children will do
She searches for what she knows is not there

What is she to do?
A mother’s heart once filled with joy
Is now filled with sadness
The new born baby who brought joy
Is now starving in desperation

What is she to do?
She searches for what she knows is not there
Men come and go professing their devotion
Only to leave when life is a commotion
Alone in the silence she wonders
What is she to do?

She bows her head and begins to wonder
as tears fall from her eyes
It is the gaze of her children which break her heart
She searches for what she knows is not there

With sadness in her heart she begins to bath them
And with an extra special touch she tells each one
she loves them as only a mother could do
They walk the dirt trail hand in hand

She bows her head and begins to wonder
as tears fall from her eyes
It is the gaze of her children which break her heart
as she walks away from her children praying for a better life
for those she loves

Day break comes across the African sky
A mother awakes
She tries to smile, yet the reality of the moment
Seizes her and fear falls over her.
She searches for what she knows is not there

Written by Rob Compton
11/22

Friday, November 18, 2011

Adoption comes full circle for my family...

Adoption update: Our son is still missing. We have updated our home study, in case we need to go in a different direction. Yes, it's been tough and we have good and hard days. However, we know he is on the throne which provides SO much peace and comfort. We are excited about the next steps.

There is more to our adoption story....

I had an amazing and unique childhood, which has shaped me in so many different ways. My parents were raised in two distinct ways




My father was raised on a rural dairy farm. Early morning chores, long hard days working in the fields and one-room school house and occasional trips to the city was his way of life. His mother's determination to provide a quality education and a way out inspired my father and his brothers. In fact, she was his schoolteacher in the one room schoolhouse for many years. His father was a lifelong railroad man. Hard work and county living was his reality, and shaped his tireless work ethic. I always loved going to the farm and to town and hearing how much people admired my grandparent's hearts.  The picture below is with my Mom and Dad along with my daughters Shannon and Jessica.




My mother on the other hand was raised in a very small town where everyone knew every one. Mom's parents were well known due to their involvement in church activities and because my grandfather managed the local G.C. Murphy store which would compare to today's Wal-Mart. My grandfather was a simple man who truly had a servant heart. Up until the day he died, he was constantly serving or working on some project at the church. My grandmother was one tough and sometimes mean lady. Yet,I never questioned their love for my mother. So, as a child growing up in the city, I had the opportunity to spend quality time in all three settings. It was a truly incredible way to grow up and I am also thankful I had a loving protective sister to help me get through the tough times.

I don"t remember the age when I found out, but somewhere on life's journey I learned my mother was adopted. Her parents would not talk about it and I quickly learned it was a taboo subject. Yet, over the years my mother would share her desire to learn her story. She was very grateful for her parents, but she wanted to know "why". I don't think we could have envisioned how God would answer her question. The answer to her question of "why" continues to be answered with "how". God continues to teach us "How" her life along with my father's lives are effecting children and families all around the world. Simply amazing to watch this play out in front of us.  The picture below is my mother's senior pic from High School. 

I along with other members of my family wanted to help mom find her birth family but wasn't sure how. During one of my parent’s last moves, my mother requested her birth certificate and her original was sent, which provided the clue we needed. We now knew her mothers' name and vital information. I posted the information on a couple of genealogy sites and, to my surprise, I quickly got a hit. Amazingly, her brother had also been looking for my mom. My sister and I began to correspond with her family. Within a few months my mother had the opportunity to meet her mother and all her brothers. Sadly, her mother was not interested in maintaining a lasting relationship with my Mom or any of her other children, yet she has developed an amazingly close relationship with several of her brothers whom she visits often.

The picture is with my Mom, Dad and Sister Debi.

All this happened after my Grandfather passed away and as my Grandmother's altymeizers was getting progressively worse. God's timing, as always, was perfect. She was saying goodbye to one side of her family, and hello to another. This was an incredibly emotional journey for my mother and I am so thankful I was able to watch the story develop.

Now, the next chapter begins. I am so thankful my mother was not aborted. Her life has brought so much joy to our family. As I said earlier, I am so thankful for my childhood and my amazing parents Because a life was chosen, God has provided an opportunity for us to impact yet another life. I can't help but wonder what this experience is like from my mother's perspective. Thank you Lord for my parents, their love, guidance and devotion. As God has radically changed my views, I know the hardest impact at times has been on my family. I thank you for patience as God continues to mold and shape me. i am a life forever changed.

Now,we wait to see what God is up too.....


Father, thank you for your passion and desire to use us to impact your kingdom.  Find us faithful in our decisions and help us to be joyful.











Thursday, November 17, 2011

I saw this on Life Line's Site

ADOPTION...


Awaiting...What do you hear when you pray? If you say, "Nothing" then I ask you to just listen, Jesus is there...just waiting to impart many graces and blessings upon each and every heart.

"Whoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." Acts 2:21


Dedication...He says, "Come to me if you are troubled or afraid, if you have thanks to give or even if you have strayed. I'll welcome you with open arms, I'll never turn away."

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28


Open..."I long to see your face, your beautiful smile, so come sit with me My child, let's talk for a while. Cast upon Me all your worries, your troubles and your fear. Bring to Me all your cares, and promise to leave them here."

"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7


Peace..."My peace I will grant you and the strength you need to live. I have so much to teach you, so much I want to give. Your heart I will soften like unto Mine, then send you into the world, to let your light shine."


"In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." Matthew 5:16


Time..."Many graces to do good works I will shower upon thee, if only you will spend but a
little time with Me. More beautiful for Heaven, your soul will truly be, for all the time you spent, in My presence, you see."


"Evening and morning, and at noon, I will pray and cry aloud; and He shall hear my voice." Psalm 55:17

Infinite..."And when you're before me adoring, I want you to know, upon the whole world,


My grace and blessings will flow. What a great act of faith is made each time we enter in, to adore, give thanks, and ask pardon for our sin.""And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses." Mark 11:25


Often...The Lord invites us to meditate, pray, or read... for any time spent in His presence is valuable indeed.


"Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." Psalms 139:23-24

Never-ending...The things of this world are passing, someday we'll leave them behind. But the treasures stored up from prayer and devotion will be those of a lasting kind.


"So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal." 2 Corinthians 4:6


ADOPTION...Please contact us at Lifeline Children's Services if you would like more information on ways you can help all of the children who are waiting to be adopted.

Our prayers are with you!

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Now, I am an expectant father again.

Adoption Update: Birth mother and Emmaunel are missing. So, we aren't sure what is next.  However, we know the creator of all things has us in his hands and we are peaceful as we wait. 



 My youngest daughter (at this time) turns 16 this weekend. I am amazed at how fast time goes. I blinked and now she is a sophomore. Shannon is a lot like me, in many ways, but it’s her heart and her love language, which moves me the most. I also love the “life” conversations which can occur at any time with my daughters. They are tender, sweet and humbling as I reminded of my dependence on the Holy Spirit. I love hearing my girls say, “Daddy." They will laugh when they read this, because there are times when I ask them say it repeatedly. Those words bring so much peace to my heart. I also love to hear them laugh. There simply is nothing like that sound and the smiles which follow. In that moment, you sense the deepest kind of satisfying love. You wish you could record every tiny moment in your mind forever.




I remember one of the first things we did after we learned Kathy was pregnant with our first child was to run out and buy What To Expect When Your Expecting. I found certain parts of the book useful and informative, but others I found absolutely fascinating. Dads, you know exactly what I am talking about, the author explained how my child was developing and all the new things going on. I found myself captivated by the words, and suddenly. It didn’t sound so crazy to sing or talk into my wife’s stomach regularly. Little did I know, how a tremendous impact that would have on me, months later. This was going to happen. I was really going to have a baby, and she was going to be mine. Today, Jessica is 20 and when she first entered this world, I couldn’t speak for a few seconds. However, when I did her little head turned from side to side trying to find the voice which has been speaking to her on the inside. The blessings of fatherhood are truly amazing.

Now, I am an expectant father again. We are seven months along and very excited about our newest addition. We think its boy and only one boy, but God does have a sense of humor. We have many of the same questions we had with our first two children. What he will be like? What will he look like? Will he take after his mother or his father? What kind of personality will he have? The peaceful part is, God already knows, and he is smiling down on us as he prepares our family.




Friday, November 4, 2011

11/4 - A mother's broken heart

Reminder: This Sunday is orphan Sunday. We would love to have a picture of you in your shirt!! Please send pics to rcall4him@gmail.

Today, my (Kathy) heart is broken but my faith is strong. My head knows that God is in control of all things, He is Sovereign, He has a plan, and nothing that happens in our lives is a surprise to our Creator. But, we found out yesterday that the son we have invested in this past year, the son we have come to know as Emmanuel, the son that have grown to love as much as our biological children will probably stay with his birth mother. 

In one respect, that is the goal of all foster parenting situations. The goal to reunite a child with their birth parents is understandable and often what is best for the child. But in an instance where we don’t know that birth mom, don’t know the circumstances that Emmanuel will be living in, don’t really know anything more than she has decided to keep him, it’s very hard to convince your heart that it’s right. My head knows. It’s very hard to let go in my heart.

We aren’t sure what this means for us regarding our adoption. We firmly believe that God has a son or daughter for us and we will move towards that means. What we are not sure of is if we have to start the whole entire process over, or if we just re-submit paperwork that went to Ghana. We are in limbo…waiting with hurt and heavy hearts to find out what lies ahead.


Please pray for our family in the interim that we continue to submit to God’s plan for our lives, that no bitterness would form in our hearts and that we can move confidently ahead to making our family complete.




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